Wednesday, 23 May 2012

What? You change a diaper?!? Oh, you are SUCH a good father!!!

My husband is an amazing parent, hands down no doubt about that. He is caring and involved in our daughter's life and he deserves all the praise he gets for it, but I got beef...

In the past it was quite common for men to take a more distant authoritative role in the family dynamic, he was the bread winner and his involvement in taking care of the children where minimal. All that was involved with the house and children was the woman's job. Now a days times have changed, men have started to take a more active role in their familial life. I wouldn't say that things are quite 50-50 yet for the majority of families, women still do more in the household that their spouses do, but this is not what I have an issue with we'll save that for another day.

I have an issue with all the praise my husband gets for being such good father simply because he is involved in our child's life. It is irritating to hear people tell him (or worst tell me) how lucky I am to have him simply because he will change a diaper or because he can't wait to go home and spend time with his daughter. I am thoroughly annoyed by the fact that fathers get vast amounts of praise for taking their fare share of the work mothers have been doing since the dawn of time.

I am not annoyed that I am not getting praise, truth is I feel like I am doing what I am supposed to and so is my husband. Neither of us should be getting any amounts of praise for what we do as parents because that is our responsibility and our duty to our child.

When it comes to a family where both parents are doing their jobs as parents and they are doing it well, neither one deserves more praise than the other. We need to stop being shocked at the sight of involved fathers, this is the 21st century it's quite normal now a days.